We’ve all been broken at some point; we know what it’s like. Moving on from someone you still love feels like you’re getting hit by a bus right in the heart, over and over again. It feels impossible to do anything, like the whole world is coming to a complete stop. Your life starts to feel empty without that one person you thought was going to fill it up forever.
But will it really come to a full stop? The answer to this question is completely and entirely up to you. Yes, heartbreak is the worst kind of pain any human can be forced to endure. But just like any other type of pain, it eventually goes away. With the right guidance and essential dosage of self-care, you can learn to move on from the ex you still love in a healthy way!
#1 Cry A River
If you haven’t done this already, you absolutely have to! Crying your eyes out is the first step to getting over someone you love. It’s the perfect remedy to a broken heart. At this point, you’re filled with so much sadness that needs to get out of your system somehow, don’t you think?
Crying shouldn’t make you feel weak, it’s part of the healing process and that’s why you can’t keep it inside you, let it all out.
#2 Hit The Block Button
Cutting contact is the first thing you do after you’ve started to move past the pain. Memories are the first thing that come back to haunt you after a breakup, especially if they’re happy memories with someone who used to mean so much to you.
You can’t keep talking to your ex claiming you’re “just friends” because there’s no such thing. You’ll never heal if you haven’t convinced yourself it’s completely over yet.
If you’re following them on social media, hit the unfollow button! You can’t keep stalking them and seeing all their updates thinking you’ll be able to move on. Here’s a fact, erasing them from your present will help you move on from the past!
#3 Listen To Your Gut
This is not a one way road, it’s more of a rollercoaster of emotions. One day you’ll feel on top of the world. The strong side of you will shine through making you believe that you’re finally over them.
While at other times, you’ll feel like you miss them like never before. You’ll start to recall your happy days and wish you could still have that. That’s when you’ll start to feel like you’ve hit rock bottom again.
All you need to do throughout this bumpy journey is listen to your gut. Whenever you feel down, give yourself time to be upset. And when you feel like you got this, own it and flaunt your strength, celebrate yourself!
#4 Cut The “What Ifs”
You know when you’re almost at the perfect spot where you’re doing absolutely great and then the “what ifs” start to creep on you? What if we were still together, could I have been happier? What if things had gone differently? Should I give my ex another chance?
When those types of questions start to make their way to your mind remember the reason you broke up in the first place, there shouldn’t be any “what ifs” there!
#5 A Little Forgiveness Goes A Long Way
Sometimes you don’t really need to fully forget about something in order to be able to forgive. Even though you can’t forget the heartbreak and the plenty of nights filled with sorrow, you can try to let go.
Forgiveness will help you let go of holding on to your past. You’ll only have the present and future to look forward to. Even if it’s not for them, do it for you. Forgive and let go!
#6 Slow And Steady Wins The Race
There’s no deadline on when you need to move on. Take all the time you need to feel better! Don’t put a time limit to your sadness and give yourself as long as it takes for you to fully heal.
Stop pressuring yourself or listening to others pushing you to move on with your life. There’s no point in hurrying your way through this, it’ll only come back worse if you don’t give yourself the time you need.
Take baby steps and grieve all you want. Be certain that you’re not behind in any kind of way, you’re only moving in a pace that fits exactly how you feel.
#7 Stay Grateful
Just because one thing didn’t work out the way you had planned for it doesn’t mean everything else is screwed. We know it’s tempting to think that life has got something against you for not giving you the one thing you wanted the most but that’s not true.
You’ve got countless things to be thankful for and this is the perfect time for you to recall them. Think about your health, family, friends, loved ones, and everything else surrounding you. You’ve got so much to be thankful for, so don’t sit around thinking about that one thing you can’t seem to get off your mind.
#8 Take Care Of Yourself
This is the time for the self-care routines and love yourself talks. They’re not just a bunch of clichés you know, it really does help to take care of yourself a little extra at that point.
Listen to your favorite kind of music, take yourself out on a date to your favorite restaurant, pamper yourself at a spa. There’s so much for you to do to feel better so go out and do it. You don’t need to wait for someone to take you out in order to be happy.
#9 Give Love Another Chance
We know it’s hard to think love is going to find you again right after a tough heartbreak experience. But hey, love won’t stop there, you’ll eventually find it once more. All you have to do is believe in yourself and your pure heart. Don’t lock your heart and throw away the key, learn to leave the door half open!
